There is one more thing that is striking me as a little bit odd. My wife is really wanting to have kids...REALLY BAD. In fact, this is the only time she even considers having sober sex (this morning she says "so, you want to make a baby?"). We did not have sex this morning because I don't want to start a family until this stuff is mostly worked out and, since there was going to be no chance of us concieving, she retracted her offer. I want to be able to be present 100% so I can give my kids every opportunity. I don't want there to be any serious "underlying tension" that the kids will inveriably pick up on. And besides, I hear that when a woman has kids her drive becomes non-existent. It guess part of me is also afraid that once she gets what she wants (i.e kids) I can just totally forget about ever having a healthy sexual relationship.