I am doing fine except for this screaming case of blue-balls. :-)
YOu hit the nail right on the head. When she gets drunk (not everytime) she is really fun in bed. Otherwise physical intimacy does not happen...period. We hold hands and sit together on the couch and stuff but that is about it. No kissing other than a little peck when I leave or come home. Anyway, she gets overwheled very easy but this is getting better (except about sex).
It has been very tough so far. My real fear is that I don't have what it takes to go years without real and active physical/sexual intimacy from my spouse.
I am not sure if she has told her counselor about the sexual hiatus. I'll ask her about that tonight.
Some of the books she is reading provide exercises on how to recover the sense of touch and then recover sexuality but she does not seem to want to implement them on a regular basis. If I bring it up she throws the old, "I have to do this on my watch and in my own time when I am comfortable" stuff in my face. Personally, I think it is all just an excuse coming from her fear. In any case, I don't think you can make real progress without taking a litte risk. Do you have any ideas on a good plan to bring physical intimacy back into the mix?
