I disagree with a LOT on those lists above. You HAVE to talk to people. You DO need help from your family. It's how much is disbursed, what is disbursed, etc that makes the difference.

Sorry...I won't use the word 'spying' per se, but putting your head in a hole is the most 'regrettable' action I hear DB'ers say. KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON IN YOUR MARRIAGE. To do otherwise is enabling.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;