Do you see why he left you and is still "bonded" with his parents?
honestly, coach .. i don't see why he left me and still bonded with his parents. why is hurting me even an option? why is it better to hurt me? i didn't know loving someone meant hurting them.
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This is your path to take. Look at your situation like you are looking into a fishbowl. What do you "see" ?
i see a man who feels a greater responsibility for his parents than to himself. i see a man who doesn't love himself. i still love him. i want to show him that he is deserving of unconditional love. because that's how i grew up and i know it exists.
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Why would your H be attracted to you in the first place? What did you have that was priceless to him? What have you learned since then that will help you?
some days i don't remember why he was attracted to me. i think in many ways, physically .. i am his type. i was a good girl - just like he is a good boy. we had similiar morals and values. we had a similiar sense of humour. i was the only person he trusted to get close to him. what did i have that was priceless to him? my flower, my friendship, my trust. which is why i have kept a few things out of my discussions. there are lines i do not cross.
but i have learned that i didn't fully trust him in some aspects. it almost seemed like the closer i watched him bond with his parents, the less i trusted him.
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To walk down the parallel paths requires you to "lovingly detach." Having no expectations helps with the fear and anger. Love yourself enough to arrive down the path as a stronger, wiser and healthier you. You can handle it.
i need to be strong now. wiser? more like guarded. if i didn't love myself, i wouldn't be here. i would be dead.
