So, it's been over a month since I've last written on my threat. A lot has happened. The day of my last post, my H left his cell phone laying around and I snooped his text messages. The OW texted "Going to bed, goodnight babe" and my H responded "Wish I was in bed with you." It wasn't anything big. He's done far worse since I discovered the affair, but I've given up being the only one fighting for us. I talked to my DB coach and then asked my H for a divorce. Instead of ending his affair, he was very cooperative in filling out the D paperwork. We didn't involve lawyers and we submitted the paperwork last week together. The house goes on the market tomorrow. He's much more willing to divorce me than to stop cheating on me. He says that all he wants is for me to be happy and he doesn't make me happy anymore. We talked again last night and I said again that all he needed to do to get me to stay is to end his relationship with the OW and I'd stay and we could work out our problems. He says that it isn't that simple and he doesn't believe that the OW is the problem. We had problems before the OW so getting rid of her now won't do any good. I can't make him understand me and I can't seem to understand where he's coming from either. I think I'm dealing with a narcissist. Thats my update.
When you are happy as an individual, you are in a better position to determine whether a partner enhances your happy life or weighs it down.
