I do not care about the sex thing right now, I just want to get her back being comfortable with me again, I knew she was not that comfortable, but being described as an awful experience when we were just kissing is just like a kick to the groin.
I am scared to death, she has never spoken to a L before as far as I know. Now she is speaking to a L. Wow. Scared to death.
Going to just lay off everything for a while and go with a pleasant attitude and 180 her for a while. There is plenty of time to discuss the lack of sex. We just need to start discussing it, and discussing other issues, and not letting it get bottled up until there is an erruption or a checkout.
I am loosing it. You would think after all that I have been through and all that I have seen and preached on here, that I would be calm and cool, with a plan down to a t, well maybe tomorrow.
Work, eating with my parents tonight, friend and business partner coming up to stay with me tomorrow night and will be here on Thursday.
It's a start.
Called her and left a message about an hour ago, she has not called back, its amazing how that would have been no big deal but now I am consumed by it.
Some who are having success are doing so by being a man. Not overplaying it either. IE: you are not going to spend a lot of time analyzing what she thinks or justifying your actions. Do right per the situation the best you can.
For now while you are stuck in that other thinking, find a way to enjoy yourself. Do some things for yourself, make it a daily mission.
Stuck here at work, trying to get some stuff done. Trying to be a man right now, and getting through the BS that is work, but sure would like to go back home and get into bed with my dogs.
I too got stuck in that trap of being highly focused on what she's thinking and analyzing my behavior and her responses to the microsecond. Its feminine.
I didn't know us men CANT do it. So we be a man, do right and hope for the best and sometimes $hit is going to happen.
