Build up demand outside of the house and you will get lots of coochie in the house. No body has to cheat on their wife to get what they want. Teach her a lesson.
bad idea. terrible. more of the same.
she told you straight up:
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Now I remember the 3rd thing W said she did not like about me... W said "And I think you hide things from me"
start pulling that stuff and you might as well give your wife the freedom to move on with her life without additional heartache.
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thank you for posting your conversation. I personally taught it read as being a very healthy conversation to have at the time. People need to let it out and need to be heard, and need to listen. It is healthy. Once you know what you need to know now. Let it sink in.
thus, A major take home point =
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I asked "What do you think would help improve things between us"
W said "For you to stop talking about it"
So true. So many people talk about fog and their WAW spouse not making sense when they talk, but do you see the clarity in the above response. Can you understand the importance over the "long run?" I am not trying to beat you over the head with this as it reads like you truely understand, but I hope others who constantly berate their spouses with questions and arguments realize the importance.
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Can I ask you a question?
What is the difference between marriage and friendship with your wife?
Thats a good question. How do you recover a friendship after a strong betrayal? We're not going to be passive and accomidating to our good buddy who set us back in so many ways. We could open the door for re-igniting the friendship after they have regained our trust in a variety of ways.
OfficerInNeed's wife has not shown herself yet to be reestablishing trust. I feel that she is gaining an advantage in having all the dedication and attention from her husband, calling the shots while giving very little back.
We cannot worry about that OfficerInNeed believes he was controlling earlier in life with this relationship, we have to worry about getting past the affair.
Some of my comments are searching for ways to re-establish her interest in her marriage. Some of the ways of doing this are not nice.
