I feel like I am talking to the wind here - but it helps anyway! I call H tonight to let him know that he is "losing" S - not good interactions. H says that he knows but that "he does not want to be with me!!!!!!!!" I said - I am clear on that. In fact - I actually say " I am clear on that "Joe" (fake name used on phone chat line) - "43 years old" - To which H says "I am hanging up" which he does! OK - so friends help me - do you validate an MLCs "reality"? I realize that he is pissed right now - and that I need to completely go dark - but do I need to explain that to my 16 year old S = so that he understands? I am never going to get through this!!!!!!!
Wow....
The only opportunity you actually missed there, was to shove some Bamboo under his fingernails.
I could get all 2x4ish with you here, I'm just not sure that is what you need right now.
Let's start with....
How do YOU feel about what happened ?
How could YOU have handled that better/differently ?
How much of that was the old YOU, that YOU want to change ?
How would YOU feel if that was reversed ?
Irish....Look...
Your husband knows that something about what what he is doing isn't right..
A dog knows when it craps in the corner, that it isn't right.
Rubbing their nose in it only lasts for so long before the repercussions will start....
