and? do you think if I detach it will just drive him to her?
He's already there, Swimming. He's already having an affair. Detaching will SAVE YOU! Maybe he'll come back, maybe he won't. My opinion, FWIW, is that he is chicken sh!t to make a move. If he really wanted to leave you, he would have by now. Of course, there is no reason to b/c he can have his cake and eat it, too.
But the detaching is FOR YOU!!!!!
Greek
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
Coach must have told you I'm a Words of Affirmation girl! Thanks! Greek
My wife (filed for D 6/10) recently told me that she thinks that she is a words of affirmation girl too, but I am at the Last Resort right now. Should I be using words of affirmation?
Coach must have told you I'm a Words of Affirmation girl! Thanks! Greek
My wife (filed for D 6/10) recently told me that she thinks that she is a words of affirmation girl too, but I am at the Last Resort right now. Should I be using words of affirmation?
Sorry to step on someone else's post.
When it is geniune, why wouldn't you? Coach pulled a WOA on me while we were separated (and I had even FILED!), and it melted me! Greek
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
Coach must have told you I'm a Words of Affirmation girl! Thanks! Greek
My wife (filed for D 6/10) recently told me that she thinks that she is a words of affirmation girl too, but I am at the Last Resort right now. Should I be using words of affirmation?
Sorry to step on someone else's post.
When it is geniune, why wouldn't you? Coach pulled a WOA on me while we were separated (and I had even FILED!), and it melted me! Greek
Wow! I didn't realize you and coach were an item. Any advice you oculd give on my thread would be greatly appreciated.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I think that he is NOT too chicken Sh** to do anything..I really dont. I think once I tell him to go..which with the anxiety that I am experiencing right now I will have to do soon, he will most likely move in with her and that will be that. The end. I can get it together in every way shape or form but he is a stubborn man and as long as he has someone well...I wont matter. I heard ILY many times when I kicked him out the first time but now...well..he doesnt even try. All the promises he made me...what happened to them? Has his fog lifted and he finally made the decision to be with her? He expects me to just trust him but has not done anything to earn my trust.
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