I was always all about privacy - until, hurt and mystified by my husband's suddenly strange behavior, I sat down at my computer one day and saw a headline on MSN.com that said: "10 Signs He May Be Cheating." WH fit 8 of the 10.

That article led me to the phone records...which led to the bomb...which led to a string of lies that I disproved by snooping EVERYWHERE. WH told me he didn't like having his privacy invaded. I told him I didn't like having my marriage invaded and to get rid of OW. He didn't. So I haven't stopped.

Trust but verify. If they hide it, they're lying.