How to tell the kids

[dday101798]

Dan,

I'm not saying what I am to 'attack' or anything. I think there are still some issues with you not owning up is all, I think you're not only defending yourself to your W, but from yourself. If you want my honest opinion, I think you need to spend some time hashing things with yourself, before you can your W. Just my 2 cents in what I read here.

In saying that. It might not seem a big deal to you that you missed this or that as you didn't miss this or that. But it is to your W, quite obviously. You won't become father of the year overnight, for sure. I know I certainly wasn't and at the current moment, the only thing wrong in my sitch is a yet again straining relationship between myself, STBW and the kids. But, I'll tell you from my experience one little thing. My STBW and I are abid rollercoaster freaks to no end. And we couldn't wait for the day that they were finally big enough to get on them with us. And that day came. But, it was with STBW, them, and OM in my place. Just one of the "firsts" moments for them I will never have the pleasure of knowing.