I'm not sure I understand. Are you saying she is deserting me because I deserted her? Maybe that is true. Maybe I do deserve this, but I don't think that is what is going on. This will hurt her more than me, but Grandma knows she has filed and she is not comfortable going to Grandma's house. She isn't skipping this event to hurt me.
A lot of these events happened 5+ yrs ago when the kids were very little. I can't remember every detail of what I was doing back then. I am trying to be honest. I do know that I skipped a lot of the little kids movies and going to the beach sometimes, but I did go to all the sporting events and many other things too. More recently, I have been spending a lot more time with the kids. The question is, what do I do now to help me save this? Do I go tell her NOW that she is right and I was selfish and wrong to skip these events and that I am sorry. I have told her that all I want to do going forward is focus on the marriage and family and find things that we can enjoy doing together, but she has never showed interest in helping to put together any list.
