Well...had another TM exchange with WW last night...more of the same.
WW once again brought our DD's in the middle and continues to deny her affair and still refers to it as a "friendship" and calls "affair" my words which I reminded her that OM and WW kissed and got a hotel room together to just "talk"
Naturally WW accused me of being controlling and I consistently reminded her that I'm doing what needs to be done to keep this family together and protect it from outside predators and WW is free to join me in rebuilding our family.
WW said maybe we'll be more productive discussing D to which I replied I will let you know my decision at a time and place of my choosing.
WW also tried to change the subject on what to do about the house to which I replied "I haven't decided what to do about the house yet"
WW still doesn't get the concept of a boundary and refers to the boundary as an ultimatum. I reminded her that I never said she couldn't be "friends" with OM or not contact him...I said that if you continue to contact OM then I will leave this marriage. What you do is YOUR choice but you will own the consequence for crossing the boundary.
Sandi - At one point WW said "I need to decide if you are worth that" when we were discussing the boundary. I also got WW to admit that her affair was the first selfish thing she has done in her life only after I reminded her that not to long ago WW told me "I finally did something for me" and that she lied to me, our DD's and my parents so that she could spend the night in a hotel with OM which she claims nothing physical happened.
May have backslid slightly from my 180 but I didn't start the TM session...I was replying to an earlier TM from WW. I did go to the local bistro and have a beer by myself and I'm going over to a friends house tonight...earring is still in!
Day 16 of not sending a good morning TM to WW!
Last edited by loweinsd51; 06/22/1002:15 PM.
M-43 FWW-42 T 20 M 16 DD10 DD8 EA: 1/10 Informal separation: 6/11/2010 Headed for D: 7/6/2010 Piecing? 9/10/10
