Originally Posted By: irish
OK - so friends help me - do you validate an MLCs "reality"?


Not to beat a post mortem equine...

BUT

Arguing with an MLCer is like jumping through flaming hoops wearing a firecracker underwear.

Nice trick but it any gonna work.

Look Irish, we all know how this feels and we've done stupid rataliatory crap which is why we are telling you to quit it.

It doesn't work. It makes you feel like...well...

...your underwear caught fire jumping through a flaming hoop.

Anxious, remorseful, and ________.

These feelings stop you dead in your tracks on your journey through this.

You have to start looking at this another way. You believe your H is MLC or at the very least not behaving "normally".

That means everything he chooses from his words to his deeds is not reality, it is HIS reality.

NOT yours.

He is trying to change everything because his world doesn't make sense to him. He is in more pain than you could ever imagine.

His guilt is tremendous, way down in there, deep. He doesn't need help from you to make it sting more.

You're suffering. He's bleeding from the inside...

...and that's not where he's is looking. Inside.

He blames you.

This is not your fight. You see?

Take a step back.

Breath.

Dig deep down for your courage.

And take a step forward.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am