Watching,Listening,Waiting.... #4

[JAK58]

Hi Mat,

H has been going back and fourth it seems between withdraw and peeking out so to speak. We have had some revelations it seems.

I met OW at the nursing home where a mutual friend that is dying of cancer was just placed. First time I have seen her in person.
Funny other than her coming up to my chin and being tiny we look and act a lot alike Hmmmmmm.

My H knew that her and another friend were going to be there and chose not to tell me then acted with them as if he didn't know (for my benefit no doubt). The other friend thought that was strange.
When we left my H asked how I felt I said it was awkward,not so much because of her but the sitch and of course I was comparing her to me and what attracted him.
Well my H started to tell me how the whole thing started(in his version of course but, that is the way he sees it). I remained quiet and listened. I still remain quiet. H has asked me if I have a ny questions or comments but right now I can't think straight so I asay nothing as I just want him to continue to do work.

A few days before all of this started H was trying to engage in convo with her when he had told me he was no longer going to talk to her and wanted me to do the same which I kept my part of the bargin until she called me after he tried to engage her in convo twice in a couple of weeks.
He was sooooo mad that she called me. Now he thins she has a motive other than friendship and that she was behind the phone calls.

Him being mad at her has helped to turn things around I feel. H is afraid that I will leave.

H has said he wants to find new work and has even come up with a plan. He says he is sick of not making more money and that they haven't gotten raises in a very long time. I do feel though that he wants to do it to get away from her and to help us recover.
What ever works! I told him I would support him if that is what he wanted.

Long story.

JAK