My sitch continued, not sure why original thread

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I really am at a loss.................

What do you think it took her to leave the M? It isn't easy to walk away from a M.

At the point she decided to leave, it probably seemed like the easiest thing to do (in a world of only bad choices).

She was probably frustrated with waiting for you to change and had built up so much resentment toward you that she felt justified in looking outside the M for something to make her feel better.

Happiness, however, is a DIY job. Nobody is going to make you happy. Some folks, once they know where your buttons are, can do a pretty darned good job of making sure that every time you are happy you are knocked down a peg or two though.

So now... seperation isn't making her happy either, so the hope that leaving was easier doesn't seem to be panning out.

That doesn't mean, however, that you are the more attractive alternative. She might be stuck in a world of crap where there are no evident good choices. I don't know, your neighbor doesn't know, you don't know. None of us can read her mind.

Ran yesterdays incident past the neighbor that was trying to help facilitate clear communications between us and she is still reading it as that WAW is struggling terribly

I don't think involving the neighbor is at all sensible. I am pretty sure others probably told you as much. If you need to talk to a family therapist for some IC, then do that, but stop dragging the neighbor lady into it because this is not a professional relationship you two are having.

After just a cursory browsing of some of your posts, I'd like to see you work on letting go of much of your fear and developing more empathy. Feel the fear, understand it, but do not let it drive your actions and rational thought, and then let it go, and then... hopefully... you will begin to understand how fear and resentment drive others to do things that might not seem rational.