OK - so I really did screw up. H is in control now because I confessed that I left him a message on the phone chat line and I felt bad and shouldn't have done it. Now - as crazy as it sounds - he has the upper hand because I admitted doing something I shouldn't have done.
Are you serious?? Upper hand??!! Is this really how you view this whole thing.
You need to stop worrying about him. You have PLENTY of things to deal with and work on when it comes to you.
This is an extremely immature way to view things and behave. This is difficult enough as it is. I have no idea why you wish to make it even more so.
Your actions don't match your words. How the hell can this man trust you with what you've been doing. YES I said trust YOU.
He'll never come back to you if you are going to play games and throw this in his face.