"i feel like a scapegoat."

Why do you just feel like one.. you are.

"so he decides to hurt me?"

If people do things to a fault.. who would you hurt first?

"i love him as a person but the way he's handled all of this is disappointing."

Welcome to the club.. you need a trophy or something?

"it's almost embarrassing. during our m, i worked hard to prevent him from making a fool out of himself."

So.. you did mother him.

"so did h.
and they still have him wrapped around his finger."

People go with what they know.

What now?

Relax
Eat
Think
Act normal
React.. Smartly.
Do something different.
Emulate.
Do Work.

Lets get "RETARDED" in here.