My divorce will be final any day. The papers are filed and waiting to be signed by a judge.I am no longer standing. I am moving on. The Rebuilders course I took helped me alot. My H is seeing someone-I think...But at this point I don't really think I care.
I had met with H a few times before we went to mediation. H kept telling me he didn't want my retirement, he didn't want alimony(maintenance)...when it came to mediation-he got half of everything which meant...a large chunk of my retirement, cash and a nice bit of alimony(and child support).
So at this point I'm not angry about the past affair or the divorce, the many lies, his recent snooping..but I am angry that he lied to my face about what he wanted in this divorce and couldn't be the man he was capable of being...
H still gets angry at me, although I have very little contact with him now, except some emails and rare phone calls about the girls. They spend a week with H and then a week with me.
I think H has a very long way to go before he comes out of his MLC..
I have made some great friends from my Rebuilders class and that has helped me tremendously. I am looking forward to a future without constant anger directed at me, without feeling that I have somehow failed in my marriage. I've learned so much by going through this, and even though its been hell at times..I think I'm a better and more whole person now.
My next relationship will be that much better and stronger for it.
GG-somehow we have to meet..I'm in the rebuilders(RB53) meetup group. Will be at the August picnic...
TF- I think you (and your marriage)will make it through this--you have come so very far and will be one of the successes for sure with your strength and patience!
D Money- You have grown so much this past year! I know whatever happens you will absolutely be fine and thrive! I'm rooting for you!
Everyone who ever posted or helped me through this journey- I want to officially thank you all for the kind words and support when things seemed darkest. Just knowing there were other people out there in a similar situation helped me keep my sanity.
I may pop in now and then..but probably not as much as in the past...It feels as though my life is getting worth living again!
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.
