Oh, Mila, I feel for you! My H is respecting the only boundary I've set -- call before coming over -- but if he didn't, I had decided that I would change the locks (or rather the codes). I know I have no legal right to keep him out of a house that is half his, but I also know he wouldn't escalate to court. It would only tell him that I was serious.

I would simply email your H and explain what you want again, directly and clearly. If you can handle the fallout, you can say that you will change the locks/codes, if necessary. Let him go to court for access. He probably won't.

I really feel for those here whose H's continue to act like a$$es after leaving their families. I'm sorry, Mila.

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Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man