and another thing--I feel like I don't have the option to sit around as long as I need to "heal" before dating. I guess because if I figure if I meet a good guy before my son is like 4 or 5, it will be easier for my son to accept him.
Pfft. Too needy. You're going to wind up with another jerk most likely if you hold onto this sense of urgency.
^^^This^^^^ Bingo.
I second this or third this or whatever with resounding emphasis
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I have 2 boys who are going to be 13 and going to be 12. Their dad has had no contact with them since they were 2 and 3. I married AJ when they were older (5 and 6) and he left when they were in 2nd and 4th grade. I waited for several years before meeting and committing to COri. ANd tey love him and he loves them
I have an almost 12 year old, and almost 13 year old, a 7 year old stepdaughter and a brand new 1 year old baby girl.
It's hard work but I love every second of it...
if you are with someone because of time or lonliness you aren't going to be happy
you need to be with someone because of who they are and who you are when you are with them
and
about the ring
AJ took my ring and gave it to the little girl he was dating at the time...not sure if they ever got married, not sure if he ever had kids with her but I suspect she was pregnant
I am only sure of the fact that he was no longer good for me or my children
