FYI really hate feeling sorry for myself! I despise it! But whenever I see 2 parents together with their baby, I think "I never got that!" and THEN I get jealous and think of the fact that OW and stbxh play house with OUR son! So they get that! Thank God I tolerated his visits to my house for the first 10 months of S' life because that meant way less opportunities for the bonding to occur.
Pardon me, NM, for just learning how to quote.
I think what you said - "Thank God I tolerated his visits to my house for the first 10 months of S' life because that meant way less opportunities for the bonding to occur" - is what we have to hold on to during times like this of grave disappointment. We didn't do it all JUST for our WHs to come back; we still remained clear-headed enough to do some things that would help to keep us sane no matter the outcome with WH.
Just so you know, your posting all these months has really helped to keep me in line. I (and probably a lot of other lurkers) owe you bigtime!