I get your point entirely but as it is in my sitch and others here, XW (or STBEX or whatever flavor you wish to attach to it) will always be part of the picture - actually deserve to be part of the picture for the sake of the kids. I still haven't found that line of demarcation and maybe it will never appear. But I have accepted that a long time ago and my kids continue to grow. I hope yours continue to grow as well...
Me 52, STBEX 52 D 17, S 12 M 20 years Em Sep since 2002, Phys Sep Sept 2009