Just out of curiosity have you made any effort to EDUCATE your wife about the impact divorce has on parents and children?
Chapter 1 of Divorce remedy is a great start... But I would start doing research to SET an EXAMPLE for her to FOLLOW
Collect good artilces attacking divorce, describing in detail how it harms children.. print them up and leave them around the house
Then when your wife starts talking about divorce you tell her you don't want to hear about it and that she's hurting YOUR children... and
WALK AWAY...
Leave the articles in your work areas in front of your PC etc... don't SHOW them to her or throw them at her... she just needs to SEE you are THINKING LONG and HARD about your decisions... Oftentimes this offers a good nudge so the spouse will start doing the same...
Opti, right NOW you need to be setting an example, and panic isn't going to help... buckle down and start doing what you want HER to do
a. Research choices before making them b. Collect info on rebuilding marriages c. Focus on making choices that adults will do d. Set an example for your spouse and your children to follow
This is what you want HER to do... YOU need to start doing these things FIRST.. she is not giong to suddenly up and do them...
You need to be doing them LOUD and CLEAR... ALL of them and MORE
And Note : NONE of this involves sending text messages back and forth...
