And another thing- I think a way out of my misery over this divorce is to accept that I did not do a good job putting my H priority, and neglected to make anniversaries and Valentines' Day special and really did not do a good job with this marriage.
That is a courageous, honest, self-perceptive insight to admit. You'll be fine.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac