most domestic violence organizations offer a safe place to do child exchanges

we use it with COri's ex as she has threatened to hunt me down and kill me (in front of all the kids) and has taken Aubrey and refused to return her.

anyway

we use the safe place to do exchanges

we arrive 10 mins early
she arrives
we wait 10 mins
and then we leave

she does the same for drop offs

it is also helpful because they monitor when the parents are late for pick ups or drop offs so it helps establish a pattern