Thanks Mila...yes, there are many things missing from the garage.
I hate to even think about it but think it is time that he and I set up a meeting to discuss division of property! I am trying to keep track of everything I notice is missing!
I hate to even discuss this stuff because to me it seems like I am giving up...not the exact right words, but...
Anyway, enjoying the brew and grandkids were here for a little bit and they always put a smile back on my face!!!
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Hi SA...we must have been posting at the same time earlier as I missed yours! Not really...there is a code key thing that H knows the password to and I have no clue how to change it...I will just keep track of stuff he has taken and present that to my L if I need to down the road!
Picturing Mila's pool guy!!!
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I remember when XH and I were in the process of splitting things up the visceral reaction I would have every time I went to get something I needed and it was gone. My XH really didn't take many things without telling me, but I remember how frustrating it was when I went to get something and it wasn't there. ARGHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!! In my case my XH didn't do these things maliciously. It was just a combination of his juvenile MLC brain and miscommunication. Jody (DB coach) always told me that a generous spirit is attractive. When we were separating things I gave H things that he wanted. I was fortunate in that my H/XH wasn't greedy. For example, I gave him a framed art photograph of a place we visited on our honeymoon, the heating blanket and comforter from our bed that he wanted, and gave him little gifts for his new house: I started a couple ivy plants from our big sunroom ivy plants and bought him a smaller version of an art print of mine that he had always admired at a local annual art fair. I knew full well that every time he looked at those things he would remember the good times we shared and the home that we renovated together. My XH has lived in his new house for 1 year now and God and the universe has been teaching him some hard lessons. He is beginning to peek out of the fog a bit here and there.....and I know that all of the things I generously gave him are there reminding him of what we once shared.
This is an opportunity to put things into your H's living space that will remind him of you and the happy times you shared together. My generosity inspired his generosity and my H/XH has been generous in helping me with some chores around the house.
P.S. XH and I played ping pong together for 2 hours a couple weeks ago and went biking together for 2 hrs last saturday. I know that if I hadn't laid the foundation with these generous acts, we wouldn't be friendly now.
I needed to read these words GAG!!! A while back, HB advised me (one of her "feelings") to not let the little material things get in the way and these are probably some of those little things she is talking about... You are right of course! It is frustrating but that is something I need to work on I guess!
Since my H is living in OW's living space...it probably wouldn't hurt to have some things of ME around!!! He took some DVD's last week and all of them are movies that we all enjoyed as a family so hoping that he thought of us as he was watching those with her!
And HOW AWESOME to see that you and your XH played together!!! Gives me hope!!!
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