I'm at a worse position than him in most respects. What has been happening is I have been calming myself, being less stern and strong in my communication and my wifes walls have been coming down slowly.
I still live outside of the residence. IN the last two weeks she is letting me "slap her on the ass", when I hug her - and just the other day she let me grab her chest and she made a joke about it that was not intended to maim. Her joke was something like "you just wanted to give me a hug so you can cop a feel", it was funny.
Anyway, I look forward to the day when I can have intercourse with my own wife again. When she desires her marriage and treats me well and defends me. When she gives me a good position as a man as with respect to her viewpoint.
The "ass slap" could have easily backfired, but it didn't and since that first one, I have been allowed inside that boundary when I want.
We also went to dinner last week, but she started to raise her walls on me and I went [censored] on her.
I still know I can get it back.
Anyway OfficerInNeed, I think you are doing real good, real respectful and responsible toward your relationship. Do something thats not supposed to be managed and neat like an "ass slap" or be seen naked by her on purpose.
Don't talk about the relationship. I think it raises guilt or makes them feel stupid. That same thing does not work for me.iu
