I have been doing my 180s but Its just not working. I have never been real communicative with my wife, so as a 180 I have been tring to talk to her. I guees it is too much. Now she complains I am always "around" and she needs her space.
By "not working"....what part is not working? Oh, you mean it's not getting your W back? The 180's are not to get your W back, they are to improve yourself.
You are still living in the land of expectations. Just like wanting to impress your W's friend at lunch, hoping the friend would put in a good word for you. The key to all of this is to improve yourself without any expectations from your W. Can you be the best guy in town....and not expect even a second glance from your W? Until you reach that place, your work will all be in vain.
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I have never been real communicative with my wife, so as a 180 I have been tring to talk to her. I guees it is too much. Now she complains I am always "around" and she needs her space.
But you are smothering her. That's not good. The time to have given her attention with conversation was "before" a S. I understand what you were trying to do, but in a case with the WAW, it will backfire in your face.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
