Stuck and don't know how to proceed

[sportsfan]

That's what I'm hoping to accomplish. I am the ONLY person who has always been there for him. Not his parents, not his friends, and certainly not the two OWs. We talked about that when I found out about OW2.

When H and I used to discuss his IC sessions, his IC told him that for the majority of H's life, he just bobbed along the surface, which resulted in H becoming resentful and angry towards me. H just pushed all the bad things down inside himself regarding me, his job, etc. and let it fester. IC told H that he needs to dive in and start speaking up about what he is feeling, what he wants, and learn productive ways to deal with everything life throws at him. I noticed good changes in H since last fall, but lately I feel as if he is just bobbing along the surface again. By going dark I hope that will make him think about diving in again. He needs to be pushed off the fence. Wow. Lots of metaphors in this paragraph. Ha!