She doesn't want to try, and she isn't going to stop being with other guys even for a little while for me.
She said the only reason she told me she wanted me back was because she was sad, and it had nothing to do with me, and after she talked to me that night and told me who she was seeing, and realized I didn't "hate" her she felt 100% better... But has no desire to be with me again.
I am just so hurt and amazed at how she is able to treat me with absolutly no concern for me at all.
I just have to go completely dark before this woman destroys me.
K - I'm so sorry!
No one likes to be jerked around and WAS are famous for doing that. Just when you think things can't go much lower, they do.
I'm with Sugar - go dark on her and put her out of your mind for now. You could both stand a little distance, a "time out," if you will. Leave the toilet seat up, drink out of the milk carton, sleep in the middle of the bed. Don't think about her or your relationship.
Refuse to make her a priority when you're only one of her options, as Sugar says.
I know it's hard. I know you don't want to let go. I know you think that if you don't hold tight, she may run away and never come back.
The reality is, she's not planning on going far. She's in THE FOG, enjoying the excitement, and she keeps jerking your chain every now and again to make sure she can still locate home base if she needs it.
So pull the stake on home base and go have a beer with your buddies without telling her. Next time she jerks the chain and winds up with both ends, she'll FREAK.
When she has to come find YOU, then - and only then - will she be ready to abandon the fog and recommit. Put her out of your mind until then.
