There is nothing wrong with seeking help (IC), its one of the best decisions I ever made.
There was someone there for me & me only to listen to me and to ask questions and help me to evaluate myself and the situation that I was in. I didn't have to worry about an ulterior motive or worry about how H would react if he heard about it.
If I were you, I would go dark with the W. Only talk to her if you absolutely have to and then only about neccessary things. If/when she is truly ready to re-commit to you and your M, you will know because there won't be any of the back & forth. You will be able to see and feel the sincerity of her commitment but most important of all, her actions will mirror her words.
Again, I'm so sorry she wasn't being sincere with you. I'll keep checking on you and give you any help I can.
In the mean-time...start doing thing for yourself and build your life based on what makes you happy and brings you fulfillment. Keep your chin up and give IC a shot, you are worth it, right?
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
