To clarify, I never sent an email asking about the $125 that is what I was going to do. We are fine on bills and it will probably be okay if it is not returned but I don't want to take a chance.
I haven't asked him ANYTHING about the money at all. That's what I was asking...should I send me an email and say:
"WH,
I would appreciate it if you would not withdraw money from the joint billing account. You recently withdrew $125.00 from the account; what did you need this money for? Can you pleaes replenish the money you took? Please also replenish the $5.00 that you took from the account. Thanks."
Rob thought I should be nicer but I don't think my email sounds "mean" or maybe it does and I just can't see it.
I love my WH DEARLY. I love him more than I think he realizes and it's killing me and if he would wake up one day and get help and change back to the person I knew for the first 7 years of our relationship that would be one thing but right now that doesn't look very certain or possible. He said this is what he wanted so that is where I am.
My family (mom and dad) now knows about his SA, his parents know and a best friend of mine. I just couldn't keep the secret anymore and I need help and strength to get through this. I know the only way I could ever go back is if he completely changed which is unlikely. I'm trying to let go and it is hard.
What do you think about the email?
I still don't get him not sure about what he wants - give me a break. It just doesn't make sense and I refuse to continue to put my life on hold and be his doormat. I have given him so many chances to change and be a better person and it's just not fair. I want a life and a family that loves me.
