Citygirl-I am glad you understand that our Hs are being selfish and acting badly but are not evil (just like I hate to say that I know OW is not EVeeel but it makes me feel better to think she is). At this point, would you prefer to be divorced from your H instead of having to wait until November? Sorry to hear you have Lupus. I learned a little about that autoimmune disease when I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis. I hope you have some good treatment/management in place to help you!
I used to really regret agreeing to this legal separation but I am trying not to live with regret as it is what it is. Our case was complicated as I live in a "fault" state and there were many, many particulars. When my H first left me I asked for a legal separation that he declined and went right to the divorce. Fine. Our case lasted 24 months and a few days before the trial was set to start he asked me for the separation instead of the divorce. Lots more happened but that is it in a nutshell. My H actually petitioned the courts for our legal separation to last until Nov. 19, 2013 but I do have the option to file after Nov. 19th this year.
I know a big part of the reason he wanted such a lengthy separation was for health insurance purposes. As long as we are legally separated I can stay on his work insurance. If I divorce him he will have to pay for my insurance out of pocket. For now it is a practical matter to me. I haven't really decided what I will do come Nov.
Yes, lupus is a very difficult disease to live with. I am sorry you have RA which I also know can be tough. I get labs every four weeks, seem rheumatologist every four weeks and my nephrologist every eight weeks in addition to taking two cocktails of medication each day. I do my best!
