The kids had their long awaited overnight with their dad. My 16 year old was in tears of joy the night before he was so happy "mom, I think dad is changing because he seems nicers". To fast forward a mere 18 hours later when exh jumped on my daughters case for overflowing the shower on the boat... she has waist length hair and it got caught in the little drain, her brother came down to diffuse or intervene because his dad was screaming at his sister. EXH went to put his hands on S shoulders who slapped his hand away and next thing you know ... he is putting S to the ground and wrestling across the boat floor ... up the galley steps. D is trapped and can't get to her phone all she sees is her dad laying on her "buddy" and him flailing trying to get away. S ended up with a bloody nose and bruising on his arms...his dad picked him up at one point by the feet and flipped him head over heels almost back down the galley steps. So, the call me histerically I said call 911. they did and before the police got there... EXH pushed them both off the boat... and told them to get the "f out". So he doesn't live in a good part of town so here are my kids standing in the rain waiting for the police to show up on the side of the road beneath the interstate where homeless people live.
EXH called 3 times last night with his version .. there is now 3 of his.... the kids version has stayed the same. He was defending himself as he says...now it's so laughable because everyone who knows my boy... non agressive. The police called me this morning because they are concerned for our safety.
The feeling the 3 officers have is we are going to be headline news. EXH is the perfect candidate.... normal guy, gone crazy, has nothing to lose, wants me to have nothing, that he is scary because he has nothing to lose. Their words... "protect yourself, be on the look out". Their hands are tied because they have nothing that is prosicutable but they have feelings and their feelings aren't good... so off the record they warned me. Scary stuff.
They didn't discourage me from getting a no contact order but they think it might set him off even further and they are the first to admit that if he breaks the order... it maybe to late and might not matter.
I notified his parents of the officers concern.. their answer is my kids should apologize for being disrespectful to their father and I should let EXH come to my home and hear their apology... of course ... i gave them the officer's number so maybe they will listen to professionals but they are wack... the officers even said ... you have good kids here.... he has an anger managenent problem.
You know what EXH and his parents are worried about.... EXH might lose his job if he gets in trouble with the law. Ridiculous... who cares... if I am homeless... I'll be safe!
That's the worry ... his career. That's my and the kids fault if he loses it.... because he can't control himself if the kids dare piss him off. Plus I told him his jobs didn't care if he had inappropriate affairs with work people or if people accused him of sexual harrassment... why would they give a chit if he attacks his kids? Ok.. I know that wasn't nice but seriously such a drama queen... he can only get in trouble if he is drunk on the job or can't pass a drug test... they can't fire you on domestic violence. He is so stupid to think this. What happens is people lose respect for you.
The cops told me he is a control freak, pr ick, and scary.
I didn't make that up, they got it within 3 minutes of talking to him because he was demanding the kids respect him.
Happy Father's Day to my kids, right?
Last edited by sandycay; 06/21/1007:13 PM.
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
