Moved first born out of the house, after what seemed to be a dangerous, downhill slide, and into my mother's house, where he has a bedroom suite to himself. Lot's of tough love built into the arrangement, which he seems to be responding to;
-Begins new/old job (he was rehired) today @ 5pm -Graduates 6/26 & begins college classes 7/8
Getting to this point has had plenty of Jerry S. moments & I'm sure we were the subject of convo around the 'hood' for a while.
After reading a post regarding Penny Tuby, I've gone full no contact w/H since finding out OW is living w/him. S7 is now picked up & dropped off @ my mother's house.
I get daily vm & e-mail wanting a connection, & respond when I must. He invites himself to my family engagements & I have to let him know an invitation was not given.
He threw a bit of a tantrum yesterday when he p/u S for Father's Day. Said the arrangement wasn't working, b/c there weren't swimming trunks packed, he had better start coming back to the house to make the exchange.
That's not going to happen. I see how I gave him his fix with me, & then off he would go to OW.
I do wish I had investigated more, I would have had knowledge (is power) along time ago.
Feeling very strong & capable these days....with a little ding yesterday missing my father.
Still amazes me how H still tries to run the show from a far.
Take Care,
Sunny
*FIB-Noticed I forgot Lather...have learned to spit, however
