My Husband Just Left Me

[BeingMe]

I hate to say this, but I've been on the bb a long time. I think your WH started not wanting people to know you're S because he wasn't sure what he wanted ... he is used to hiding his life and this is just one aspect that he wants hidden, for now. But he is escalating the financial stuff, and ignoring your previous email for him to return funds tells me he is not in a mindset to hear you. Eventually, he will tell people and somehow you're going to be the bad guy, for some reason or another. His family may be sympathetic now, but blood is thicker than water, and they won't want to believe he's at fault.

I think it's pointless sending an email since the previous one was ignored. You can either just let things stand, and hope he will honour the mortgage payments. Or, it may be time to visit a lawyer to find out what your next move can be.

DB'ing doesn't work, IMO, on people with addictions. You cannot DB an addiction. Your WH is not at home in his body right now ... it's the addiction you're dealing with. You know why he is taking money out ... to feed the addiction.