Be patient and glad that she is respecting your boundaries. A positive attitude is good for you too, and she does seem to be trying. A good sign. It takes time.
Trying to be patient. A good attitude is a must. I thought that I had that one down, but I realize I would still react to certain things that she did. She would notice my reactions and bring it up during our R discussions. Here I thought I was doing so well.
I don't really know if she is trying or if she is just being more secretive. I know her sister asked her how things were going and she simply said 'the same'.
I am still tempted to hire a L and file myself. That may be the only thing that shocks her enough to come out of her "fog". I will admit that I am scared to take that last leap of faith. I guess as long as she is respecting boundaries, or at least not flaunting things in my face, I have time to see how it will play out. Patience.
I have learned so much about myself and taken the steps to be a better person. I know that's really what DB is all about. I wish I could jump ahead in time and find out if this waiting for her is worth it or if she's still playing me for a fool.