If he stayed for the kids, we'd be modeling to them a "loveless" marriage.
Wow.. this is exactly what my H told me, nearly word for word. I countered with: "So you'd rather show her how to give up when she thinks something's too hard, and teach her to ignore the consequences of doing so?"
That was over three months ago, but still feels like he said it last night.
He's justifying, elvencat, making excuses. That's what they all do, which is why their words sound exactly the same. How many other things has he said to you that cut you to the core that could be repeated verbatim by any number of BS's on this forum?
I know it hurts. But it's not HIM. The guy you fell in love with is trapped deep inside, imprisoned by this creature that's taken over his body. You can only trust 50% of what he says and even less of what he does right now. He's in the FOG. Would you believe every word he said if he was strung out on crack? No! Then don't do it now. Detach, let him deal with his addiction, and be strong!
I agree here.. I had no idea until I started reading this site and reading everyone's stories that it's like these words came from a macabre play that all WASs know. I'm at the point right now, that I am beginning to realize I CAN be perfectly happy without him, and that even though I don't want to do so, I can move on if that is what I need to do to protect DD and me from H's actions.
Realizing that fact, and acting on it are two different things, but I hope I can get to the point where I'm living the knowledge like you.
Me 32, H 34, DD 3 M 6, T 8 Bomb 03/10 OW Bomb 6/5/10 Separate & NC 6/28/10 My 2nd EA Thread
