Divorce in 1 month Help with exposing please need

[twolf]

Ok droped son off at the meating spot. Stbxw was nice she asked how mine and sons weekend went said fine.She set son down on ground and let him play for a little.

Asked about what my new companny is about.She started telling me about her problems that she had with her car.

When she picked son up she asked me are you going to come give your son and a kiss by.

Said shure she really didn't let me take him she kinda held on to him where i had to give him a hug and a kiss him in her arms. Then she asked me to help putt him in car seat.


He said love you dada and mom and by dada. She looked at me like i putt him up to saying that. I just shruged and got into my car and then she said i will let you know we made it home safe.

Ok here is where it got weird at 8.30 she texts me and demands to know how son got scratches on his chest and what was the white stuff in his ear.

I waited 10 min to text back what scratches and white stuff in ears are you talking about?


She texted within seconds. He has 6 red streaks going down his chest and belly and their is white stuff in his ear.



I was not going to text any more I waited 20 min thought about what she was talking about because the weekend before he feal and scratched his knee and made a big deal about it and i told her to get over it boys will fall.

Didnt want a repeat of the weekend before her being nice to me face to face then texting BS.


So i called her she answerd,I said well he was drinking fruit punch on the way down and it might be that take a wet rag and see if it washes off.She did and it was what i said it was. Then she said what about the white stuff in his ear whats that.

My reply was did you open up that little bag of white ceddar popcorn i got him for the ride home and let him eat it?

She said yes "ok their you go."

I allso told her that the sons cough that he had for the last few days wont be as bad if you give him a drink when he wakes up coughing. Told her that was my opinion have a good night and to give son a hug and a kiss before he goes to bed for meand have fun.

When i have son she texts Give him a hug and a kiss from his mom and tell him that i love him very much.

When she says that i just want to say if you did wy are you doing this to our family!



Im so getting tired of her BS when we meet that she is nice and then after she trys to start a text fight......

I feel better that i havent been leting her pull me in and im only answering one in three of her text and waiting so much longer to awnswer her.

[twolf]

I think I'm going to go dark and not call to talk to the son for the next two weeks and see what happens.

No texts i will not respond to texts anymore.
She never gets mad or plays her little games ovrer the phone or in person.
She is only a Bich withe texts she wont tell me anything in person every thing she ever told me was by text only when it comes to O/M and our marrige.



Im going to see if stbxw starts to the procees of calling me to talk to son.

Some thing going on for her to put the divorce on hold. We had everything their and ready to go. She told the judge she needed two more months.

[twolf]

Ok Allen .... little update on cousins stich.


He called to tell me that wife made love to him last night and as soon as they were done she wanted to go to the bar and meet up with some single girl freinds.

He told her that he didnt think that it was a good idea that she went out 11 pm at night to go out and hang out with a girl freind on a sunday night. "BOUNDRIES" yes.




he and i talked today they are going camping with SIl bil fil and mil. he can only go for the weekend so he is going to have a talk with fil and bil Away from wife and sil to tell them whats going on and get more support.

I think its a great idea.
They have all told his wife how bad she has been acting because SIL infomed them.

He just thinks some one on one time to talk to them and let them know that he is fighting to save his marrige and family.

Then when he gets back he is going to take his wifes grandmother out for lunch and ask her not to watch the kids for her when she does go out with out him. That he needs her help to set up boundries for helping her act like a wife and a mother.

I allso told him sence the phone bill goes to grandmother he needs to start getting the Call logs from her so he can keep an eye on the Wife. He pays the bill so i dont think it will be a problem.


Grandmother told his wife that you have a good man and your throwing every think away so we belive she will help out on this.


Ok she asked cousin how come he is making so many changes,he told her that i was giving him advice. That ive lived the hell that he went through etc.

Saturday night she texted me with his cell phone and acted like him asking if i had any more advice about their stich.

Ok i new it was her because cousin does not use happy faces when he texts. I said hi B whats going on and what is cousin up to well 10 min later i get a text from her how did you know it was me?

Then she procedes to invite me out with them . I said thanks butt no have son and dont feel like going to the bar.


Another funny thing his wife texted me yesterday and wished me a happy fathers day.

Then she texted me today to let me know she got a new phone number.


Cousin called and said she said she needed a new number so O/M cant call her.

I told him that he needs to still keep his gaurd up that some thing is just not sitting right.

He wanted to know how long it is going to take to get back on track and i told hem probley sevral months.

What you think on this one Allen???

[twolf]

Ok cousin just found text on his wifes phone to O/M "we need to talk"

This after she got a new cell number so the O/M could not call her.

He came home from work early and she was in the shower and he saw her cell and looked through it.

He confronted her and she swore up and down she just wanted to talk to him because he has been telling people a bunch of stuff about her that she said he is spreading around.


She told cousin she didn't want to tll him what he has been telling people.

[twolf]

Man i answered my own qestion. She does not have the nerve to tell me anything in person.
Her protective wall is by texts so i dont answer her texts and i take her wall away from her.

No fights or arguments from her.This will make her take responiilty for her actions i THINK.

I did get her new email account i wonder if it is even worth sending her Things on what divorce does to children.

I will send it to stbxw, MIL, SFIL and her close freinds.Some one will be talking about it when i email the articals to the them.

Thanks Allen.

[Allen A]

Just print up the articles about divorce and children, leave them in your home so next time she's there she will see you are reading...

Have some of your buddies visit your cousins' OM and tell him to back off and not answer texts from WS etc... OM needs to know there is a bunch of guys who will put him in the ground if he does ANYTHING to damage this marriage .. INCLUDING spreading rumours.. Tell this guy to BACK OFF and DROP IT.. no rumours no talking ... ZERO

Have a nice "friendly" chat with him about keeping his mouth shut and staying away from marriages...

And yes your wife wants to write when she's pissed.. save them all you can use them in court...

Your cousin needs to tell his wife this :

ALL CONTACT is NOW UP ON THE TABLE... NO SECRETS in this HOUSE BETWEEN US.. ZERO SECRETS... If OM is spreading roumours she shoudl be telling her HUSBAND so he can PROTECT HER.. not texting him in secret .. AGAIN

TELL YOUR COUSIN TO MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS>>> NO MORE SECRETS... whatever she is dealing with they deal wiht it as a COUPLE.. she's not james bond... tell her to stop the secrets... PERIOD

Tell him to put his cell phone on the table in front of her and to tell her she can open it any time to read it.. and she should be donig the same...

all the truth on the table... no secrets...

Serets are marriage cancer... repeat that.. secrets are marriage CANCER

[CD Bear]

Allen-

Please add that last line to the "Hall of Fame"

It is spectacular!

[twolf]

Yea i know where this guy hangs out. I think a will take a couple of cousins that we took before and have a talk with the doushe bag.

Cousin called tonight and he talked with his wifes grandma and she said she agreed with him about not watching kids so she could go out.

She told him that she would be more than happy to watch them if they wanted to go out.


She has not been to our house in six months.No way to leave them for her when she moved a 100 miles away to her moms.

[Allen A]

Allen-

Please add that last line to the "Hall of Fame"

It is spectacular!

Hi CD... that line is actually from MWD... but she was talking about lack of communication...

TO my mind, if you aren't communicating with your spouse, youa re keeping secrets...

So, the idea is the same.. I prefer calling it secrets rather than "lack of communication"... secrets just gets the destructive point across much better in my opinion

[Allen A]

Yea i know where this guy hangs out. I think a will take a couple of cousins that we took before and have a talk with the doushe bag.

Cousin called tonight and he talked with his wifes grandma and she said she agreed with him about not watching kids so she could go out.

She told him that she would be more than happy to watch them if they wanted to go out.


She has not been to our house in six months.No way to leave them for her when she moved a 100 miles away to her moms.

Then you may haev to mail them to her... I don't like it, but you can phrase it like :


Wife, I have been donig a lot of research on divorce and the harm it does to children.. I really don't like the sound of any of this... the More I read the worse I feel about this divorce...

Out of respoect for our son I would suggest you start reading this stuff so you know what you are gonig to be putting our son through... I don't like the way things are NOW, but the look of divorce particularly for OUR SON looks EVEN WORSE...

I am willing to hear what you have to say about this after you have had a chance to read...

And for the sake of our son I hope you do take the time...


What do you think?