Exposed finally,,limbo land

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I told her this morning that I have responsibilities and obligations and that she also has them. I said she could choose to ignore them but that I was not going to and I would be staying in the house, and she could choose to join me (I didn’t word it quite that well but she got the point).

I think I’m taking 14 yr old camping for a night or two with brother. I will try to hopefully bond a bit with her, and let her know that I’m there for her no matter what happens between her mom and I.

W said that maybe I should talk to 14 yr old about D while gone and then she could when we got back. (no,no,no)ME – “That can not happen, because DD can not feel in any way that either one of us is putting the other down. I cannot tell her you are divorcing me, because she could take that as a moral attack against you. I can not say WE want a D, because WE do not want a D, you need to tell her, and I will be there to confirm YOU want a D or separation.”

I’m also still awaiting/dreading the papers that her lawyer is working on.

We did go to dinner with her dad and step mom, it was pleasant, and nothing came up because DD14 was there. She slept in our bed, even though DD8 was with my B, and her bed was open.