For my own sake I would like there to be no more of this drama. For our children I wish for there to be peace. I can't do this alone, it has to be mutual.
Honestly all you can control is your involvement and keeping your actions drama free. Create an environment of peace for you and your kids. My X used to call me and try to fight with me on the phone when the kids were with me. I would calmly repeat that I could not have that conversation right now, please e-mail me with your concerns. Funny thing is now, 3 years later, my D12 has confided in me that she was able to hear X yelling on the phone and remembers me saying that to him. She appreciates what I did to keep the nastiness away from them.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
