Presumably you reach your decision point as a result of an incredible amount of reflection and honesty. You've considered the past and the present, and done some mental extrapolation to the future. You've been honest with yourself about who you are, who she is, and what you had or didn't have together.
If all it takes from your wife is a statement that she is willing to call off the divorce to cause you to change your decision point, I would submit that you haven't truly reached a decision point as I described above.
More likely you've reached a decision out of pain or frustration or something similar. You are REacting to the situation instead of making a genuine, thought out decision.
I've followed along with you dbs, and your track record is to get pissed at your wife and the pain she has brought to all of you, and then eventually to give in to the slightest positive sign you get.
You are, or have been, a classic enabler for your wife. And your last post sounds like you're moving in that same direction again.
If you had truly reached the point where you were done, where you were prepared for the reality of divorce, your wife would have to almost literally move mountains in her personal changes to get you to change your mind.
Sounds to me like you're ready to change your mind right now. Fact is you're already thinking of reasons to legitimize a decision to do just that.
Think about this.
This woman is severely wounded and she has done absolutely nothing to find healing.
Bill
Last edited by Bworl; 06/21/1002:53 PM.
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