That's the kicker, she still denys that it's anything more then a friendship. I'm not sure what she is trying to hide anymore, we are headed to D. We live in a "no fault" state so nothing would come back to bite her.
Not sure why she won't admit????
Bolded by me. Almost certainly a level of guilt. When they're in the FOG, they dont want to own ANYTHING having to do with their own actions. Her not admitting to anything has nothing to do with the pending D, it has to do with rationalization in her own mind and avoiding as much responsibility as possible for her actions. She is NOT in a place to be willing to even entertain the idea that she has done anything wrong, and even if she was, it would be put on you as " driving her to it "
Dealing with the exact same thing with my WAW. It sucks but you just have to suck it up, work on doing everything you possibly can to save things ( if thats what you want) and wait for her "confession" or apology at some point in the future. But she's going to need to want to give you that apology, and the only one that can decide when and if that happens is HER.
