My game has changed from WAW to EA/PA HELP!!

[Puppy Dog Tails]

There's nothing wrong with trying to protect your family, CD. In fact, I would argue that it's your RESPONSIBILITY to protect it from predators.

Puppy

[CD Bear]

thanks, Pup.
Your terminology (predators) always jerks my brain back into reality.
i wish my grey matter worked as quickly and effectively as yours.

[Greek]

I have an additional recommendation for you at this time, CD. Go out. Don't be available. Be JOHNNIE ON THE SPOT when it comes to Calla...but other than that - go out. Come home late - not drunk and early in the morning late - but dinner with friends late; tennis with a colleague out; shopping for new clothes and SHOES out. This is good for YOU and it also sends a message to Mrs. CD: "The world hasn't stopped spinning for me just b/c you've got a foot out of the door."

Greek

[CD Bear]

Thanks, G.
I'll do that. I was thinking about cashing the last K of an RSP to have some "functioning funds" as my cards are maxed. Her's isn't.
And I'm thing I need a fashion update. Especially something noticeable like shoes.

And my plan was to stay late at the office most nights to catch up on work and personal "details". get some commission reports done to get my funds going again (and keep her out of it) i.e. Pay the bills ahead of time just to keep the account low and keep some cash in stash.

But I'll make some evening plans. If the weather holds, some golf.

thanks again.

Next weekend I was considering moving my "big stuff out" to storage "to get the house ready for sale".

Opinions?

[Puppy Dog Tails]

thanks, Pup.
Your terminology (predators) always jerks my brain back into reality.
i wish my grey matter worked as quickly and effectively as yours.

Mine didn't when I was in the midst of my sitch either. That's why I leaned heavily on those here that had been along the path before.

That, and daily I prayed for WISDOM, DISCERNMENT and CLARITY, and read the Proverbs for those and the Psalms for comfort and encouragement.

Puppy

[CD Bear]

Question to all:

Keep my ring on (commitment to my family and adult bhvr))

Take it off (match her action; show her I'm leaving, too)

Thanks

[loweinsd51]

Question to all:

Keep my ring on (commitment to my family and adult bhvr))

Take it off (match her action; show her I'm leaving, too)

Thanks

I'd go with the former...I still have mine on..WW wears hers when "convenient"

[sandi2]

Personal choice about the ring, but if you decide to take it off then leave it off until things are back on solid ground. I hate seeing someone play with it....on then off...on then off. That on & off sends a louder message than leaving it alone, IMO.

Just don't get real stressed out about the ring, okay? It is a symbol. The real MR is what to concerned yourself with.

[CD Bear]

Thank you.
Brief update.

After all the "bringing Separation paper package" to call my bluff, she's all "Need anything from WalMart" today. And phoning again rather than ALL text. Taking my time answering.

Told her I'm staying late to catch up on some stuff. Guess her response? "OK. I'm going to go in to see Amanda"

I gotta get a GPS phone tomorrow. I need to start watching and learning more about this "person".

[Coach]

Tell her to have Amanda come over this weekend for a cookout. Invite some other friends as well.