Yesterday, after a week of silence, not answering the kids calls, not a word..., he sends an email asking him if I want him to clean out the tub drains in the kids bathrooms. WTH?
Sent a bunch more emails about how to run anti virus stuff on my computer and to send him stuff so he could check if it was ok. I replied it was fine and I wasn't worried.
Tonight...an email saying how he has been negligent with stuff around the house and there were things he needs to do. "Kids computers etc".
Why's he trying to get on your computers? To install spyware? Maybe I'm just suspicious...
Good job in telling him NO!
WhatNow, it's been a long time, but I've seen this script before. It's called the "I'm all alone on Father's Day and nobody loves me, boo hoo!" script. It's filed under holidays.
When my WAH FIL lived 4 hours away in the early 90's, he'd call WH up a couple of days before Father's Day and invite himself over for a father/son round of golf followed by dinner out. Guess who got to pay for it all? Me, since WH was making grad student slave's wages.
One time we went to this quaint little cantina, where FIL held us spellbound for hours with tales of his undercover intelligence work for the military (he was Air Force). As we gobbled up the tale, he threw back the drinks, and by the end of the evening his bar tab alone was nearly $50. My WH freaked! He didn't say anything to his dad, but he ranted and raved to me for weeks afterward (WH's a cheapskate and our combined weekly income at the time was like $450). I told him to tell his father "no" next Father's Day. He did. FIL was crushed.
What'd he do?
The following year, he showed up without calling. He also had his nephew drive him the 4 hours and drop him off in our driveway and leave immediately so we couldn't tell FIL to go home. It was pathetic. It was also the last time he forced a Father's Day on WH. After abadoning his family in the late 70's, he was still feeling the sting 15 years later...
