I was thinking about taking the kids and leaving yesterday to visit family, but with the heat outside I didn't want to chase them around in the 90+ heat alone, so I stuck with my family. We visited some of the W's family, we played a bit outside, and I even tried to launch a kite in our backyard with my W's help and we had a really good laugh while trying to launch it.
While at my W's sister's house, my son fell and gave himself a fat lip. I picked him up while my W tried to put water on it. He was crying and refused to be touched. My W finally shouted, "Can I PLEEEEASE hold him!!!?" I gave him up and walked away from the chaos over very little. We had another confrontation when one of my son's drank out of his cousin's bottle because my bro-in-law said it belonged to my S. My W said, "That's not his bottle!," to which I replied in a firm voice, "I didn't know. [Bro-in-law] said it was his, so I gave it to him. I did not know. I am sorry." I wasn't backing down over something so trivial.
This morning was normal, and my W asked if I wanted to pick up some household supplies on my way home from W. Lately she hasn't asked me to do anything, rather doing it herself. This time she asked if I "want" to do it. When we went to her sis' house she asked if I wanted to go. Little considerations.
I also tweaked my ankle playing with the kids and it swelled up last night making it very hard to walk. She was helpful whenever she saw me struggling. She's not evil. I went out to get food, and she told me to take her SUV b/c my BMW is a stick. I refused and took my own car.
W and I had dinner last night after kids went to bed.
I dunno. It wasn't as awful as I expected. There were a few signs where she depended on me and didn't cut me out. As all advisors had told me: listen to actions, not words.
I still expect her to revisit her feelings of wanting a S, but at least for the past 24 hrs. she let it lie.
