Opt, also do not move out of home or bedroom. Pressure is gonna come from her hard and heavy if she decides to continue on this road. Understand that this Will be the toughest battle you have every faced and your wife and kids are worth every ounce of fight in you.
Very quickly, read up on boundaries as if she doesn't leave but decide to continue A, she gonna push all of your buttons. The quicker you establish boundaries, easier it will be to protect you and the family.
Opt, please for your family and yourself, understand this will not be easy or over quickly. Do not try to fix her, you can't. The more you try to fix, the faster she will put a wall between you and her. Avoid ANY relationship talks, unless it's to talk reconcile, as ANY other talk will be for motivation for her to continue on this path. You see, if there is talk, you will focus on saving M which just pushes her away. Without saying so, you must let her think by your actions that she is free, that you are not trying to hold on to her. That you are content with her moves. Right now, you know of her value to you. Your task is to get her to put back her value that she sees in you.
In you believe in the power of prayers, start NOW. If you need help in that area, I would be honored to help.
