Husband left me 3 months pregnant...

[newmama]

Hi, BD....yes, it does appear that you have the upper hand! So you can call all the shots. But I have to ask- what is the longest you have gone without talking to your H? How about in the last 2 months? I ask because taking a break from him, even just for a brief while like 2 days, will help you to figure out how to respond next. It's like you need to take a step back so you can look in on the sitch.

I think you say in text or email (so you don't get sucked in): "H, I am taking a break from you so I can get my thoughts and emotions together. Please do not contact me until I contact you. Of course I will let you know if I need your help. I'll talk to you soon."

What do you think? It doesn't have to be cold and rude. Distant, yes.

I don't know if you'll be able to do it though! (((hugs))) just being honest! But I promise you it will help you if you take a break, even if it is only a short one!

And then then the baby comes and this will start all over again. It is the hardest thing any of us will have to deal with in our life most likely.