I agree with Coach. There is absolutely no reason not to let you see her FB account if there isn't something to hide. Bravo to you for putting your foot down on FL. BRAVO!!!! Tell her that until SHE takes steps to build trust, you can't sign on to something like that. Practice tough love. She is living in crazy land, and is being selfish and ridiculous. Don't enable her. Put up reasonable, loving boundaries and enforce them. That is how you gain respect. I agree that you need to bust the affair- I don't see this getting better until it comes to a crisis point, in which your wife is forced to see reality and the consequences of her actions. I would continue to present her with consequences for her behavior. She is disrespecting you, the marriage, your children, and herself. Keep working out, GAL, and communicating with her. This is the time to be strong.
